It’s always hard to be away from someone you love. Whether it’s a friend, family member or significant other. Whether you’re apart for a week, a month, a year, or a few years, the old saying holds true; “Distance makes the heart grow fonder.”
I’m currently in a long distance relationship. I spent a year in Ireland and fell for a lovely Irish lad. Obviously since my work visa was up, I had to return back to the land of the Red, White and Blue. Lucky enough for me, my boyfriend is moving to the States in just a week’s time! We’ve only been apart for about 4 months, but the 4 months wasn’t always easy!
It’s difficult to be apart. When I have a bad day, the first person I want to tell is him. When I have a good day, I immediately want to tell him all about it! It’s hard because I either have to do so through text or on FaceTime rather than face to face and with a big hug. Sometimes the time difference doesn’t match up and we can’t even chat.
While it is sometimes trying, thank goodness for the technology we do have so that we can keep in touch everyday even if it’s just for a brief moment. Throughout our time apart, we’ve sent a few letters and packages, which is exciting too. It’s funny how just 15 years ago, people were excited about receiving an email and tired of all the postal mail and now it’s just the opposite.
While we’re only apart for 4 months, it certainly was an adjustment after never having been apart for more than a week since we met. We built a strong foundation for our relationship before I left so I never doubted us for a second.
While 4 months doesn’t exactly make me an expert on the subject, I do think it gave me greater insight into what people in LDR’s go through. The most important thing is communication. That seems like such common sense, but sometimes it’s harder than you would think. It’s important to take a little time each day to just catch up and chat or even just send a quick picture of what you’re doing. When you’re in a relationship, it’s important for your significant other to feel “in the loop” because you, yourself, like to be included in their “loop” too.
That being said, it’s just as important to remain present in your own life rather than spend every second on your phone or glued to your Skype account. While you want to stay in touch, you need to hold on to the friends and family you have right in front of you. I’ve been working a lot which has made it tough to spend a lot of time with friends and family, but I do what I can to make sure that they know how much I love and adore them! Treasure all of your relationships, not just your romantic relationship.
We’re lucky enough that the timing worked out perfectly that he was able to receive a work visa relatively soon after mine ended. While we only had to make it through 4 months, I truly believe that we could have done it much longer and still survived. A lot of people are skeptical about long distance relationships, but I really think that if you have a strong base, it’s not only possible, but completely worth it.
After 4 months without hugs, kisses, dates, and sharing take out food over Netflix, I am SO EXCITED to have him back. It certainly wasn’t easy, but the distance proved to be a bit more manageable than I thought. We both kept busy and in touch and now the wait is over! I’m so excited for the next leg of our adventures.
Let me know in the comments if you’ve ever been in or if you are in a long distance relationship and how it worked out. Do you have any tips on how to make it work?